Nowadays, the social media, bloggers and media generally are not helping our children to truly discover and define who they are especially with the ways in which celebrities are hyped.
Now, we see teenagers or young adults trying to dress like an entertainment icon, trying to behave like them and trying to do everything in their power and beyond to get the same attention and connection. Even little children are not exempted. They are regularly updated with celebrity news either in real life or in cartoons. Nowadays, our girls want to look like the latest princess on Disney junior. Our boys want to use their ‘super powers’ to save the world just like they’ve seen on Nickelodeon channel.
Daily, they are focused on fulfilling their icon’s dreams, subtly but dangerously neglecting or forgeting who they really are. Their sense of identity fades away unconciously and somehow they begin to live out the fantasy lifestyle of the so-called celebrity, sadly getting lost in the crowd.
They struggle to understand their purpose and never discover reasons for their existence -and, as if that isn’t bad enough, we parents then confuse them the more – unconciously and unintentionally, often by unnecessary indulgence.
Hmmmmmm … raising a child as a successful role model doesn’t happen over night. It is an everyday ‘concious and intentional’ task. Raising a child as a successful role model isn’t only a product of confession but commitments. Raising a child as a successful role model doesn’t result from our dictatorship but our dedication. Raising a child as a successful role model is not accidental.
We must be ‘consciously and deliberately intentional’ to raise role models and not celebrity freaks. How? By having parental goal(s). As I often say, ‘whatever, we don’t have a plan/goal for cannot be recorded as success.’
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