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As a man, you are first a husband/lover before you become a father. Likewise as a woman, I am first a wife/lover before stepping into the motherhood business. Moreover, I have discovered that these two roles, or let me say these two titles somehow (marriage and parenting) affect, infect and confuse each other instead of complimenting. This has influenced my decision to write this article.
I am not a saint, neither have I attained perfection in my marriage and parenting responsibility. I am a work in progress therefore I am looking forward to hearing your opinion(s) as well. What is/are your thought(s) about these commandments? Looking forward to hearing from you but before then, please read through the 12 Commandments of Marriage and Children. Thank you.
1. Children are reward of marriage not the foundation or purpose of marriage; #think
2. In as much as our children are important, they should not be placed above our spouses in marriage; #prioritize
3. What God has joined together, let no man (including our children) put asunder; #watchIt
4. Marriage is work, and it only works when you work at it therefore children should not be part of your JD (Job Description) in making marriage work; #actwisely
5. Once you are married, you are no longer two but one therfore, you have to be united in training and the development of the children; #onevoice
6. Our marriage cannot grow beyond the foundation of communication. Therefore don’t neglect your spouse because you are talking to your children; #talkmore
7. Tell each other the truth, but do it in love and don’t try to be the enforcer. Integrity starts from the home. Our children develop values based on our lifestyles; #saythetruth
8. Marriage is about sharing your lives with each other. You can ‘spoil’ yourselves with everything but please don’t spoil the children with everything; #beintentional
9. I know our children deserve the best and more of us/everything but mind you, they don’t deserve our marriages; #dontbreakit
10. Selfishness and independence destroy the spirit of marriage. Giving and sharing create the strongest bond of intimacy. Yes I understand that some spouses make the other party ‘selfish’ but listen, if you can’t share it with your spouse then don’t bother sharing it with the children; #watchyouractions
11. You must be careful with how you treat each other. Monitor your words, attitudes, and actions to make sure you don’t take each other for granted. Remember that the children are watching; #livebyexample
12. Parenting and marriage are not the keys to fulfilling purpose in life, we can live without them; #neverbeinhaste
Thank you.
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