THE CONFESSION OF A FRUSTRATED DAD

The birth of our first and only damsel for now (Oreofe) has changed the history of love between my lovely wife and myself. In the beginning, everything was sweet and rosy. In fact, our colleagues, friends and family members called us inseparable twins…but now I understand why some couples decide to wait intentionally for a while – for years sometimes before they start planning to have children.

Before our daughter’s birth, Asakemi ( as I always call her) could hardly take her eyes off me for a second. Now, her undivided attention goes to our princess…

Before her birth, I was the one and only love of her life. Now, seems like Oreofe is her all in all…

Before her birth, I was the subject of gist with her friends and loved ones. Now, she tells everyone who cares to know about our little princess…even her enemies…

Before her birth, pleasing me was all she knew how to do best. Now, it looks as if I am partially fading away into the background in her life…

Sometimes, weeks would pass without a single ‘I love you’ phrase from her to me, but to our princess, she says this countless times every day…

How I wish she could feed and nurture me the way she does to our baby…I would have felt like the most blessed man in the world!

Gosh!……

You may think I do not understand or that I am jealous…or even petty. I am fully aware and understand that Oreofe needs all the attention she can get, but I think I do not deserve to be a shadow in their real world.

Because I know that sooner or later, Oreofe and her sibling(s) will leave the nest and both of us will be left alone…I only wonder where will begin to pick up the pieces of whats left of ‘us’ then…that is if there is still an ‘us’…. I love my wife and child to bits though and would never trade anything for my life with them.

 

Can you please suggest to me/us how we can balance parenting and our love life?

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2 comments

  1. You both need to realize that parents are channel through which this beings we call our children come to this world. We never chose them and they didn’t choose us as well. At a point in time they will be mature enough to continue this journey of life. We just have to make sure we teach them the good moral of life so they can be good people. So when we see ourselves (parent) as just a channel then you will learn to love your spouse till the end because this babies will be matured beings very soon and manage their lifes even with minimum contribution or supervision from us.

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