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I understand that children can twist our braids and it will automatically become dread locks 😃 😀 😄 😁
You shout,
You scream,
Yet, they don’t hear.
You talk slowly,
And explain loudly,
Yet, they ask for more details.
Verbal communication and non-verbal rarely speak their language- the ones they choose to understand.
Then by default, you handle their wrong doings with wrong approaches.
Hmmmmmm…God help every parent!
I am guilty as charged too however I have learnt in a hard way not to react when my children resumes their regular behaviour else I may be resetting them to factory settings. This means that, I will have to start the process of intentional parenting all over.
Why? My action just opposed my teaching.
Therefore, to do the right thing when my child is wrong, I need to exercise the fruit of the spirt before RESPONDING. NOTE: respond not react.
How?
1. Love: discipline in and with love. Don’t punish out of anger, let them know why they are being spanked or sent on a time out.
2. Joy: do not let anything to steal your joy including your children’s behaviour. I repeat, do not let exchange your joy for anything.
3. Peace: be calming down 😃. What they did isn’t as bad as you think.
4. Patient: wait ✋, think 🤔 if there is/are other ways to handle the issue on ground. Then do it.
5. Kindness: an act of kindness (like forgiveness) can take the wrong away.
6. Goodness: remember the cliche in churches “God is good”? Since we are made in His image then we should be good too, meaning we should be a good example to our children. We shouldn’t do what will put them in trouble and then blame them for acting out our own script.
7. Faithfulness: be consistent. Do whatever you say else you are signing up for more “see finish”. That is, more act of indiscipline.
8. Gentleness: don’t be the lion of the tribe of your house. Let your child know that he/she has overused the life-line before you pounce on them 😊
9. Self- control: very important. If you can control yourself, then you can challenge your children to be well behaved.
In summary, exhibiting the fruit of the spirt as parents will help you to do the right thing when my child is wrong. This is very important!
Galatians 5:22-23 NKJV
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.
✍ by Oluwaseyi Fadairo
Melt my heart. Thanks for sharing.